“Ego – Your conscious human psychological trait that changes everything in its way and sometime makes everyone fall prey to undesirable consequences in their life”
I actually intended to publish an entirely different article today until an interesting scene showed-up at exactly 7:30am this morning.
Right in front of my house was a fat lady (I mean fat; like weighing 90kg from my guesses) standing with three bags, she practically needed a lift to the bus stop where she would board a cab or bike.
As nature would have it a white Hilux was going through that direction as well. Unknown to the driver that someone needed his help, he drove past with nice speed. As all drivers would know that it can be difficult to break his speed suddenly, he had passed the lady before realizing someone was actually waving him down. Now to the angry lady, she blabbed her all “See this proud man — So because he’s driving an ordinary Hilux he thinks he’s on top of the world!”
As quick as I would realize, the man actually stopped and reversed back to help the lady. She couldn’t help it but turned the gentleman away. The man went further to convince her that he’s not angry by her words but her ego wouldn’t let her go. Her helper drove off and she had to wait extra hours.
Moral Question…………… Why is your ego getting in the way?
- Admitting The Pros Of Having An Ego -:
Well the truth is that ego isn’t a bad thing as it’s being painted to be. As a matter of fact study explains that ego is a principal part of the mind that keeps the self organized integrally and is needed for reality testing and sense of judgement.
Also, ego is a peerless drive and without doubt every successful one’s got ego. Show me an entrepreneur without an ego, and I will show you an entrepreneur who is comfortable with being overridden by his competitors. Show me an athlete without an ego and I will show you an athlete who is comfortable with being the 9th position amongst 10 runner.
Ego is a must have! You cannot venture into the competition in your field and come out super successful if you’ve got no ego.
But the fact remains that most of us get carried away and become unaware of its insidious nature thereby causing havoc to our major deeds.
- Realize When Your Ego Is Beginning To Get In Your Way.
Realizing is half the battle………………. It is therefore very important to know when this ego is getting in your way.
Having self-set principles and standing on your ground is salient, but so are compromise, partnership, concurrence and understanding. Without know exactly when you get trapped by your ego, it can be very difficult to manage.
To get this done, you should be observant — What makes you feel superior or inferior to your fellow? How desperate are you to blame others when things don’t go your way?
So how can you know when your ego is beginning to get in your way? This quote answers it all —
When “your ego constantly competes with the spirit for control over your inner voice.” ~ Darren L. Johnson.
Feel like testing the size of your ego? Feel free to take this Ego-meter quiz and find out how you see yourself and your place in the world around you.
However, below are 3 steps to overcome the power of your Ego -:
#1. Take The Story With Two Perspectives — But Don’t Compare
You may agree with some of the things you hear and oppose some but seriously don’t compare. Comparison can result in greater enthusiasm giving extra powers to your ego. More so, everybody’s got different ways of seeing things you know?!
You can get this done by asking the person to carefully explain what s/he sees in the box that’s hidden to you. While you remain humble till the point is being hit
#2. Release Your Expectations
“Your ego can become an obstacle to your work. If you start believing in your greatness, it is the death of your creativity.” ~ Marina Abramovic.
In whichever way, having a maximum level of expectations for yourself or others wires your ego in a negative way. Have realistic hopes and be careful while planning for the future because our expectations determines the definition we give to ourselves and things around us.
#3. Compromising Isn’t Loss — It’s Maturity
It’s only natural to think you’ve got the right bricks to the wall. It takes a superior being to admit that his fellows bricks are better.
Coming to a compromise can be whole fully difficult; especially with a subordinate, but it’s important to note which battles are worth fighting.
Compromising isn’t loss, it shows maturity and boosts your chances of achieving your desired success with time.
To get this done, just assert your needs and ask yourself this one question -:
- Would my compromise bring a better result?
If the answer is YES……. Then good luck on your quick compromise!
When your Ego grows inapt wings, you end up ruining your relationship with friend, customers, employees, as well as your family members.
If you want a cordial relationship with everyone around; so as to maintain a free and positive mental composure to chase and achieve your goals, don’t let your ego get in the way. Be strong, ship the “E” and let it “GO”
Thanks For Reading 🙂
Author: Daniel Moayanda
Dan. is a young strategist, motivational writer and public speaker. He provides entrepreneurs with success strategies and backs it up with the right motivation needed to explore. He also writes about finding a way out of everything in general!